The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." 19:10
"If the case of a man be so with his wife; if they are so closely joined together in marriage; if they are, as it were, one flesh, or one body, that a man's wife is himself: that the bond between them is so inviolable, that it is not to be dissolved, but in case of adultery; that if a separation be made by a bill of divorce, in any other case, and either party marry again, they are guilty of adultery; if a man cannot part with his wife lawfully, provided she be chaste, and is faithful to his bed, let her be what she will otherwise, though ever so disagreeable in her person, and troublesome in her behaviour; though she may be passionate, and a brawler; though she may be drunken, luxurious, and extravagant, and mind not the affairs of her family, yet if she is not an adulteress, must not be put away." ~ John Gill
Take note that the same things would apply for the woman as well who considers getting a divorce. Let's be honest here, divorce is ugly and no one walks away unscathed. Friends are effected as well as family and God forbid there be any children involved. Unfortunately its an out, a means of escape from the person we are married to now. I hear a person once say that, "I believe God wants me to be happy." How could divorce make anyone happy? Neither do i believe that God waits in heaven as some celestial mother doing whatever He can to guard us from the realities of a broken world. We are broken people in a world bent away from God, how could we expect to live a life free from sorrows?
Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given." 19:11
I personally have within myself a deep longing to have intimacy and mutual love with appreciation for each other within the confines of a marriage relationship. While at the same time i often toy with the thought of singleness, but that is a desire the Lord has not given me. I do not know much about relationships, i can tell you the right things to do and say, but i have a very bad record in personal application. My weaknesses overshadow my past and leave me where i am with a trail of broken hearts following behind me. I don't have it all together, there is much work that needs to be done here and i think now is a most excelent time to pursue that growth.
Father, i look into my heart and i am aware of the many character flaws i have, times of moral weakness and times of insufficient strength to do Your will. I do not want to walk into a marriage relationship the way i stand now, Father have Your way with me. Your good and perfect way that cleanses my wounds and heals my scars, the way that is difficult and often painful but reveals life altering results. Lead me in that way. I can not thank You enough for the mercy You show me, the mercy i do not deserve. Pour Your grace out on me, and heal the wounds i have and have caused. Rear me to be the man who will honor You and take care of one of Your daughters. Until i am ready, please put me on hold. ~ Amen
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